My entire life, I remember hearing my grandmother say, “Goodness Gracious!” – and this simple phrase indicated something good or something bad… it was dependant on the situation. In a conversation with a friend I told her, “The reason I can interact with people who have hurt or betrayed me… is because I look for the good in people rather than focus on their faults, past, mistakes, or judgment!” Based on what I learned from Granny, my hope is that I am gracious and find the goodness in others.
Not everyone likes me. I know, shocker, right? What’s not to love? Really? Ha! Ha! I accept that I have a very strong personality and I’m a lot to handle; people either love me or hate me. There really is no middle ground. I used to get upset when others didn’t want to be my friend or were intentionally mean and hurtful toward me. Thankfully, I’m fully aware of who I am and I’ve accepted all of my faults and my gifts. Yes, this awareness and acceptance took me a lot of time to learn and make happen.
Approval from others is not needed although it is sought all too often. I strive to release my ego and instead let my spirit guide me; this is a task I must focus on minute-by-minute. Luckily, as I’ve grown older, I’ve given up the desire for other’s approval and the need for EVERYONE to love me. Some people like Coca Cola while others love Pepsi. There is no forcing someone to like one over the other; the same goes with me.
My optimism and positivity can be a catalyst for greatness, yet it can also drive people away. Many often ask, “Is this chick for real? How can anyone be this positive?” For me, it is a choice. If you’ve read “Everyday Struggle” (click here to view: http://wp.me/p1Tasj-6b) then you know positivity is a daily choice. Also, I choose to find the goodness in others and be kind to those who may not deserve it.
Today, my focus in life is on those who love me rather than those who hate me. Why waste the time and effort? What is the point in returning hate with hate? So as I told my friend, I will look for the good in others; even if they seek only the bad in me. I’m thinking that says more about them… than it does me, right?
My mantra: “Find the beauty in all people, places, and things. Seek and Ye shall find.” We walk through life impacting others daily… most of the time without ever knowing it. No matter what is happening, make it a priority to be the breath of fresh air in someone’s world… rather than the foul stench. With some people, trust me, I know, it is easier said than done. I’m no saint… I struggle just like everyone else. But I also recognize that the days I’m successful in approaching others with love and kindness, I’m happier and there is a bounce in my step.
Live life in such a way that you inspire others with your mere presence and when those people find you annoying or perceive you as fake, then I give you the advice from a dear friend, “just tell them to keep it moving” and send them love, light, and blessings. The things you put out into the universe will find their way back to you eventually. Let others worry about their own karma – for Goodness Gracious!
© Renae Rossman and Candy Coated Reality™