Everyone has unique gifts and/or qualities to share with the world. What are yours? Do you even know? …Yet? Sometimes we seek out our gifts, yet other times they are so innately natural that we don’t even realize we are gifted. Sometime last year I met an 80-year old woman, named Mary Lou, and as we were talking about life she told me, “You’re quite spiritual. Your role in life is to share that spirituality with others. You’re inspirational and will motivate others.” Hmmmm. Really? At the time I didn’t understand (or believe for that matter), but was grateful for her wisdom.
Today, what Mary Lou said is starting to make more sense and I’m beginning to see her wisdom manifest in my life. It dawned on me recently that a vast portion of my dearest, closest friends are Agnostic. If you’re not familiar, Merriam-Webster defines Agnostic as: a person who holds the view that any ultimate reality (as God) is unknown and probably unknowable; broadly: one who is not committed to believing in either the existence or the nonexistence of God or a god.
The fact that many of my friends are agnostic doesn’t concern me in the slightest. I whole-heartedly love, admire, and respect my friends. My friends are family. I was raised to accept everyone no matter their race, creed, nationality, etc. We are all glorious creatures, so their beliefs or lack-there-in do not bother me or impact me in any way.
What I value most about these friendships is that each friend accepts me for who I am too. We will be at dinner and I will start talking about how angels have changed my life. Or we will be at a happy hour, drinking wine, and I will go on about how God has blessed me. Each time, they listen supportively without judgment. They don’t ask for proof. They don’t ridicule me for believing in something or someone I cannot see. They also love, admire and respect me. For this and many more reasons, I’m grateful. Truly grateful **smile**
This weekend I attended a two-day conference and during one of the seminars the speaker warned us, “This is an experiential session. You will be participating in experiences with your partner, so don’t think you can just sit back, listen, and do nothing! If this scares you, then you had better leave now because everyone WILL participate.” And then she giggled. YAH RAH, I love this kinda stuff 🙂 I’m sure some people in the large crowd were mortified… especially if they came alone because this meant their partner would be a complete stranger. Oh. Nooooo!! Perhaps these folks heard an evil laugh instead of a jovial giggle. Ha!
As a corporate trainer, I live by the premise Tell, Show, Do. Tell people what you want them to learn, so they can “hear it” (auditory learner), show them what they should learn, so they can “see it” (visual learner), and then have them do what you want them to learn, so they can “feel it” (kinesthetic learner). Most people have a dominant learning style, so by delivering a message in the Tell, Show, Do fashion you don’t leave anyone out. And when you apply something in three different ways this also helps the new topic “sink in” too!
After the session I thought… Isn’t this what life is all about anyway? A string of choices all strung together in a row which are a sum total of all of our experiences? Most of life is Tell, Show Do. We certainly cannot live life from the sidelines watching everything, right? Well, not a fulfilled life anyway – in my opinion. Even with that said…no matter what type of learner we naturally fall into, doesn’t everyone want to SEE?? Most importantly see it to believe it?
For those of you who read “Mayhem” you know my dear friend Boo recently borrowed my car, Lady Bugg, and a deer committed vehicular suicide. Sadly, Lady Bugg is still in the body shop. I refer back to “Mayhem” because Boo shared her experience in a recent blog post:
Coming home to Cincinnati, I was about 20 minutes away, when a deer smashed into my passenger side window and blasted glass throughout the entire car. I gave up. I pulled over and sobbed. I was done. I am done. I cannot even begin to admit I had broken another car. I cannot express to you the anger and pain I felt in the middle of a highway… alone… again.
Luckily, Nae-Nae’s car was fully covered and I was surrounded by absolutely amazing people who literally laughed the moment they heard the news. They knew I was okay, but what they don’t know is, it hurts; Two accidents in two months. Financially, I am screwed and all I have ever wanted in life was for it to give me a break. What I didn’t know is…it did. I was alive…again.
Alone on the highway, waiting for help, I looked up. A small pewter angel pin was placed in the visor of the driver’s side. On Friday, Nae-Nae instructed me that she had an angel watching over me, but I didn’t know she had physically asked them to do so while I was gone. When I was a little girl, I used to think these pins were cliché or objects that parents pretended to protect their children when they left for college. I’ll admit, I laughed in my head when I knew a woman in her 30’s believed in them. At the age of 28, I was no longer laughing, but believing.
I gently rubbed this dime-sized gem and said, “Thank you.” I cried. I had been saved. Someone, anyone, or everyone had placed a bubble around me to protect me from much worse danger.
With glass shards everywhere, including my coat hood, in my TOMS, and in the back window, I reached for my right ear, and it bled ever so slightly. I felt safe. Of all that glass and I had a silly scratch. At 65mph, a car window blew up in my face, and I hadn’t bled for one whole minute. There I was questioning why these things were happening to me. Fighting to find a reason for everything, including why I was still alive. Did I have nine lives? Is there a God? Do I have the “family curse” my father talks about? All I had was questions and no answers. Then I was told, “He tests those He loves the most.”
(To read more please visit, http://letthisbreathe.com/2012/11/04/on-being-alive-and-never-alone/)
Boo is a proclaimed Agnostic. She told me she believed in a higher power, but just wasn’t sure… without seeing… what or who that higher power was for sure. By living in my truth and being unafraid to be my complete self… I continually shine a light on those around me. Boo had to SEE it to believe it. It warmed my heart to read her blog entry and learn she now believes in angels. And over dinner last weekend she mentioned God. This makes me think she may now have an idea of who her higher power is too **smile**
Every time I sit down to write, I meditate and then pray to God asking Him to allow me to be His vessel… allow me to deliver a word, phrase or message from Him that would save someone, enlighten, inspire or give hope. With the accident, God held me at my word and decided to use my car instead of my pen to work His magic.
Live YOUR truth. Shine YOUR light. You never know who you may inspire simply by being yourself – your truly unique and wonderfully-made self. By embracing who you are… no apologies… no exceptions… you may help someone along the way. Let YOUR light shine… RADIATE… Shine on… ILLUMINATE… Shine bright!!
© Renae Rossman and Candy Coated Reality™